Lily Understand each other

The woman .. Who is she?

2012-01-01T17:53:00.002+01:00

Do you really know the woman ?

As men and women are very different in their ways of acting and thinking, I propose some criteria specific to women: Gentlemen, do you know them?

A woman looks first to the mind of a man.

A woman gives what she would like to receive.

A woman can forgive betrayal but never forget it.

Some women like men who approach them shyly, others prefer men who approach them in a direct and voluntarily.

If a woman's heart falls, she will fall in with.

The genius of a woman lies in her heart.

A man does not forget the first woman he loved .. a woman never forgets the first man who has betrayed her.

The best way to make a woman change her mind is to appropriate it.

A woman explores the issues in depth before forming an opinion and when she makes a decision, it is final.

In case of conflict, a woman wants to have someone who sympathizes with her point of view and not resolve the conflict.

And this is nothing but the beginning of the way to understand women ...

Master your Emotions

2011-08-20T09:00:00.000+02:00

Very often, we feel emotions which make us happy, pleased, in security, etc. But very often too, negative emotions invade us and control our thoughts and attitudes. Sometimes, these negative emotions can be more painful than physical pain. People fall prey negative emotions and make the wrong decisions or take adverse actions. Therefore emotions are one of the most important part of human life. Some people spend hours in thinking, crying, or recalling the bad story, isolate themselves or even hurt themselves without really being able to relieve themselves. Others run away and stop thinking of the problem in order to escape the bad feeling of emotional pain, so they try to do 'something else' and pretend to be happy or not caring, a way of repressing negative emotions in order to be released from real life. None of these attitudes will solve really the problem as one should face the negative feeling and not run from it. Here are 11 steps that we can follow regularly each time we feel negative emotions invading us :

1. Accept full responsibility for the emotion. Even if you don't fully believe it right now, tell yourself, "I Create My Reality, and I am Creating this Emotion Right Now". Usually, people never get beyond step one because they actually believe that outer circumstances are causing their emotions.

2. Name the emotion. Giving the emotion a name increases your clarity, awareness, and consciousness. Don't just say you feel sad or bad or mad. Expand your emotional knowledge until you can positively identify the feelings of violation, disappointment, anxiety, shame, embarrassment, and many more.

3. Let go of the story. The story is whatever it is outside yourself that you think caused the emotion. Literally "see" the story being cut off from your emotion and fading away. Let go of the story but keep the emotion that you created and which now has a name.

4. Bless the emotion. Blessing the emotion means not judging it as good or bad. Accept the emotion in a spirit of gratitude and learning. This is necessary in order to do the next step properly.

5. Feel the emotion. With no judging or resistance, simply feel the emotion. Notice where you feel the emotion physically in your body. Raise your consciousness as you become a "witness", a kind of observer of your own processes. What you resist persists, and allowing the emotion in this way is the very opposite of resistance.

6. Ask for clarity. In a spirit of learning and willingness to grow, ask for insight as to the reason for the emotion. Don't go back to the story. The "cause" of the emotion is you, and nothing outside yourself. Ask "What do I need to learn from this emotion." Also ask "What ineffective belief do I own that created this emotion."

7. Identify the belief. Create a space for the answer to come, and it will come. At the root of nearly every painful emotion is an ineffective belief. You may believe that you must make everyone happy. You may believe you can't be loved if you are not perfect. You may believe that you are simply not worth it.

8. Replace the belief. Once you have identified the belief, choose to replace it with a more effective belief. Literally say to yourself, "I now choose to reject this (ineffective belief) and adopt this (empowering belief) in its place".

9. Summary – You will find that during the last four steps of the process, something magical has happened! The painful emotion is gone, completely transformed into something else. The reason for this magic is the clarity and increase in consciousness.

10. Normally, people resist their painful emotions with intense energy, which only keeps them festering and in pain for hours. By allowing yourself to feel in a spirit of openness and acceptance, you can learn your lessons quickly.

11. A fantastic side benefit is that you now have a powerful new belief in place! You can grow more in a few weeks than you have in the past years by practising this process diligently.

Emotional Intelligence.. What is it?

2011-06-23T21:46:00.001+02:00

Are you emotionally intelligent?

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2011-06-11T17:05:00.000+02:00

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Better Understand a Woman

2011-04-16T13:20:00.002+02:00

What to do with a Stressed Woman !

Sirs, are you able to recognise the symptoms of a stressed woman without feeling concerned? Women under stress tend to mix their feelings with those of others' and lose their balance. They feel completely torn. Men interpret personally these symptoms and believe that they are unable to help them, which is a good reason to withdraw from the scene. Here are three symptoms of a stressed woman; try to understand them:

First symptom: overwhelming

Stress intensifies the feminine sensibility. Faced to an unusual influx of emotions, a woman can no longer distinguish between her feelings and those of others and feels obliged to meet the expectations of everyone. She feels so overwhelmed and unable to find rest until everything is done. The more she forgets her needs in favour of those of others, the more she is overloaded. She continues to give and give without ever taking the time to receive. She ends up by blindly submitting to the desires of others, till exhaustion. She becomes unable to prioritise.

When a woman complains of being overwhelmed, she is simply trying to share her feelings. It will be enough to listen to her! Her husband takes distance to escape the feeling of guilt she sends back to him. He feels he disappoints her but does not know how to express it without losing face. He doesn't tell her that he wants her happiness, that he hates to see her sad, etc.., and does not even imagine that she would like to hear this. From her side, the woman becomes sure that he does not love her because his external behaviour suggests that he doesn't care and that everything is going well. The result: she feels even more alone.

A man should know that a stressed woman needs an attentive ear from her husband and not having solutions.

Second symptom: dramatising

A woman burdened always tends to dramatise. After a stressful day, a woman is able to relate all her worries and aggression on her husband as if he were the cause of all her worries. If he lets her discuss the rest of her concerns, she can generally relax. In this state, it is easy to go about unfair hurts and forget them. The man reacts similarly to stress: he is irritated easily, but if not provoked, his bad mood will go as fast as it came. A man must be able to listen without interrupting or correcting his partner's remarks.

Under the effect of stress, a woman can only restore her balance by means of speech. If her partner shows her support and understanding, it will be enough for her to stop dramatising.

Third symptom: collapsing

By accumulating tension, a woman can easily collapse abruptly. This reaction is a cry for help, but a man interprets it automatically that he failed and cannot do anything for her. He does not see that her depletion results from an imbalance and he has nothing to do with it. This excessive fatigue is the female equivalent of male folding. The more the pressure increases in a woman, the less she thinks of herself. So she needs a helping hand.

Don't even try to give her advises or to blame her, but just listen to her and support her well.

To restore balance, a woman must first examine her feelings. If she fails to unravel them, a growing imbalance is reflected by the symptoms mentioned above.

Sirs, in order to cure a woman from her stress, try to understand and recognise these symptoms. All a woman needs is an attentive ear and a strong support.

According to John Gray

Better Understand a Woman

2011-04-09T11:27:00.000+02:00

Next.. Sirs : try to understand women !!

Better Understand a Man

2011-02-20T19:39:00.002+01:00

How to Deal with a Stressed Man

Ladies, do you recognize the symptoms of a stressed man without feeling concerned? It is not easy. A man shows three main symptoms of stress that women often interpret negatively and resent: remoteness, bad temper and refolding. Women, ignoring these symptoms, tend to feel involved and exaggerate their suffering. Certainly, if women are able to interpret these symptoms correctly and understand them, they will relax and know how to help their partner find his balance.

First symptom: Remoteness

In a stress situation, the first instinct of a man is to take distance and stop communication. Of course, the woman feels that his attitude is against her. She imagines that he no longer loves her. This is normal because in the eyes of a woman, this attitude reflects indifference or resentment. For a woman, the opposite happens: the more she is under pressure, the more she becomes concerned about the well-being of those she loves. If a stressed man is not conscious of his own suffering, he becomes deaf to the others and minimizes the problems of his entourage. He hinders his emotions; he rejects any attempt to help or dialogue and pretends that everything is fine.

A woman needs to know that a distant man is a man who struggles against his emotions.

Second symptom: Bad Temper

A worried man devotes all his energy to achieve the stated goal. If he is interrupted for another reason, he has the greatest difficulty in changing his plan. It is easier for a woman to shift her focus from one subject to another. A man, however, cannot but concentrate on one task at a time. If one disturbs his concentration, he protests. A woman will think he is abusing her patience.

Under the effect of stress, a man loses interest in everything and shows a bad mood.

Third symptom: Refolding

At the highest tension, the stressed man withdraws into himself and shows utter indifference. This is one more mystery to the woman: when she closes to herself, it's because she has decided to do so. She believes that he escapes from her deliberately for some obscure reason for revenge. In fact, this refolding is a defense mechanism that is set up when the man feels flush with painful feelings. While his wife sees a pure and simple rejection, the man just needs to be alone to solve his problem.

Don't even try to help him; just accept and respect his solitude.

Faced to the bad temper of a man, a woman is afraid to ask. In order to ensure his help, she must learn to ask. If she does not ask, she will obtain nothing. Once a demand is made, she must remain silent without trying to justify herself. The silence is conducive to reflection.

Ladies, to cure a man from his stress, nothing is like a little love and tolerance.

To be followed ..

According to John Gray

Better Understand a Man

2011-02-08T15:20:00.004+01:00

Next .. When a man is stressed ..

Dangerous friendship !

2011-01-09T16:59:00.002+01:00

When friendship with the opposite sex becomes dangerous ..

Why do we seek friendship with the opposite sex? Is it because the "classical" friendship is not sufficient to meet our needs? Is it because we want to live a "different" experience, richer than what we lived with the same sex, but while remaining just "friends"? Or because we can confide with the opposite sex without being judged, and open up more easily than with one's own partner?

This difference in relationship certainly encourages people to establish friendship with the opposite sex. They interact with colleagues every day, sometimes closely and sometimes in a very personal way. One cannot help being around these people. In many cases, these are people whom we see most often than on's own partner.

They are women and men that you meet at work or in the entourage. However, how do we know if this friendship is likely to cause troubles? Indeed, this is not always easy, because human relationships tend to evolve gradually : almost all opposite-sex friendships begin in an innocent way. If one is not careful, it can become a serious threat to his / her personal life or marriage.

A relationship of friendship begins at a very basic level: to know each other. Before the person realises it, he / she starts to open up to the friend and expresse his / her concerns, worries and troubles (particularly those related to private life). Being a man, you give her a sympathetic ear. In appreciation, she gives you the attention and care that sometimes exceed those you receive from your own wife. You will find her so flattering and her behavior gives a good push to your ego. As for her, she feels safer with you because you show great interest in listening to her concerns and encourage her.

Unconsciously, the opposite-sex friendship becomes the most important relationship in your life, even more important than your relation with your own partner. It is at this point that this "friendship" becomes a real threat to your marriage and personal life.

How to determine if this friendship turns into dangerous relationship? Here are some hints:

• You’re physically attracted to the person, and think about him / her when you’re not at work.

• You find yourself sharing personal information that you wouldn't share with someone else or even with your partner.

• When you arrive at work, you start looking for this friend and you are really disappointed if he / she is not there.

• You begin to create opportunities to be alone with him / her during the workday, or outside the workplace for lunch or coffee. You're ready to linger too long at your desk to see him / her.

Because of these changes, to which you are completely unconscious, this relationship can take another dimension that goes beyond mere friendship. The friend finds more fulfilment and satisfaction in his / her relationship with you. Even if nothing unusual happens between you, you may have unwittingly pushed your friend not to face his / her problems that he / she should deal personally with his / her own partner. One will end up clinging to the other.

Certainly, many persist on their friendships with the opposite sex in which nothing ever happened and nothing will never happen between them. Evidence such as: "we're just friends"; "he doesn't represent anything for me"; "my best friends are all of the opposite sex" confirm that opposite-sex friendship is as normal and natural as the same-sex friendship and is not likely to take a romantic dimension. However, if one asks the following questions: Can you be sure that the other feels the same way as you do? That he / she sees this relationship in the same perspective as yours? That your emotions will not evolve differently in the future? Not always! Living a platonic friendship between man and woman is a major issue, a debate that remains open ..

For further reading, here are some evidences

Man .. Woman .. Dangerous friendship

2010-12-31T22:20:00.007+01:00

Next .. When friendship with the opposite sex becomes dangerous ..

Some Definitions in Life ..

2010-12-14T20:23:00.001+01:00

How do you define..

Woman..

When a woman accuses her husband of having a bad taste, she forgets that chosing her as a wife is part of this "bad taste" ... these are women.

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Man..

If a man can have all the women on earth except one, he will desire this only woman ... these are men.

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Human ..

When a man likes a woman, he imagines her naked. When a woman likes a man, she imagines him at his best. These are human beings.

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Selfishness..

When someone calls you for something very important, it's is obviously important for him ... this is selfishness.

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Wisdom..

When your wife insists on buying fresh fish and not frozen and keeps it carefully in the freezer for a few weeks in order to enjoy the "fresh fish" later ... this is wisdom.

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Relativity ..

A man sought all his life the perfect woman to marry her, and when he finally found her, 40 years later, he discovered that she too was looking for the perfect man who was not him ... this is relativity.

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Awareness..

A beautiful woman asked an African archaeologist to marry her in order to make the humanity miracle child: who has the beauty of his mother and the intelligence of his father. However, the archaeologist has refused for fear that the child might have the beauty of his father and the intelligence of his mother and thus become the stupidity of humanity. This is awareness.

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If you cannot look forward because your future is dark .. or backward because your past is painful .. live your present as it's the only real moment. This is the personal development ...

How do you define ..

2010-12-06T19:33:00.002+01:00

Next .. some essential definitions in life ..

Your imagination reveals who you are ..

2010-10-31T17:42:00.002+01:00

What you imagine is what you are!

Here is an interesting test, which needs some imagination in order to learn to know yourself as well as the others. You will need a paper and a pen to write down what you imagine so that you won't forget it.

Imagine a desert. In it there is a cube. How is the cube? (big, small) What is its colour? Is it transparent or not? Is it made of wood, metal, glass, etc? Is it in the middle of desert or in a corner? What is it made of? Do you see in 3d or not? Is it floating or on the ground?

Imagine a ladder. What is its colour? Is it far from the cube, near or leaning on the cube? Does it have many ranges or few?

You see a horse, how is it wild or domestic? Is it near the cube or far? Is it beautiful or not? Does it run, stand still, or is it tied?

Then imagine a storm. Is it near the cube or far? Is it big or small? Is it strong or weak? Is it passing by or staying? Is it near the cube or far from it?

Here is the meaning of the objects you imagined:

The Cube

The cube represents you!

. The bigger the cube is, the bigger your ego. If the cube is transparent, you are open to others; you don't hide anything from your friends or family. If you cannot see through the cube, it means that you are a private person and don't talk much about yourself.

. If the cube is made out of something solid and strong, it means that you are a strong person. If it is soft, it means that you can be easily influenced and you are emotional.

How you think about the cube represents how you think about yourself.

. Cube on the ground = you are down to earth.

. Floating cube = you are a dreamer.

. You see the flat side of the cube = you have a shallow personality.

. You see the cube in 3D = you have a deep personality.

. Cube in the centre = you like the attention and you like to be praised.

The colour of the cube represents your personality. In general, if the cube is light you are a positive person and the darker it is the more negative you are. However it may not always be so, you should always pay attention to how you feel about the colour. If you like the colour then you are a likeable personality, it the colour seems cold to you, you seem distant to people.

Meanings of the cube colours:

. Black = authority, elegance, sophistication. It can also mean the dark side of the personality.

. White = innocence, non-judgemental personality, objectivity, lack of strong opinions.

. Red = dominance, power, love and energy. If your cube is red it also can mean that you are an attention seeker.

. Yellow = shows that the person loves attention and would do almost anything to get the attention. If this is your colour, you may seem too overbearing to some people so they may avoid you. This colour also represents playfulness, optimism and energy.

. Green = compassion, prosperity, money, and vitality.

. Blue = knowledge, loyalty and calmness.

. Purple = luxury, wealth, and sophistication.

. Brown = stability, it's the most common cube colour among men.

The Ladder

The ladder represents your friends!

. The closer the ladder to the cube, the closer you are with your friends. If the ladder is leaning against the cube, this indicates that some friends are relying on you or expecting you to act according to their wishes.

. If the ladder is far away from the cube, it may mean that you either have no friends or you don't consider their friendship important to you. You either mentally or physically like to distance yourself from your friends.

. The colour of the ladder represents the personality that most of your friends have. You can check the meaning of the ladder colour in the cube colour description.

. The more rungs the ladder has, the more friends you have.

The Horse

The horse represents your ideal partner and how you behave in relationships!

. If it is a wild horse, it means that you give freedom to your partner.

. If the horse is tied, it means you want to be in control and you always want to know where your partner is and what he/she is doing. If the horse is tied to the cube that shows that you are a very possessive person.

. The distance between the cube and the horse shows how close or distant you are in relationships. How the horse behaves also shows what kind of partner you would like to have.

. If the horse is running or does not stand for long in one place, it means that you want to have a partner that would like to travel, would be full of energy and would always be involved in something.

. If the horse does nothing but stands or eats, it means that you want to have a partner that likes to be at home and rarely travels.

. The look of a horse can also indicate the physical features of your ideal partner. The better the appearance of the horse, the better-looking partner you would like to have.

The Storm

The storm represents how you deal with difficulties in life!

. If it is a big storm, then you always try to make a drama out of something.

. If the storm is small and far away from the cube, it means that you are a calm and positive person and you don't like being angry and try to quickly shift your mood if you notice that anger gets activated in you.

. The storm can also represent current problems in your life. If, whilst seeing storm in your mind's eye, you think that it will stay there for a long time, you think the same way about your current problems.

. If you see a big storm, it means that you currently experience big problems in your life. The proximity between the storm and the cube also shows how intensely these problems affect you.

With this test of imagination, you can better understand how you lead your life. You can also use it to better know the person who interests you.

What you imagine is what you are

2010-10-29T15:47:00.006+02:00

Soon .. your imagination tells who you are ..

Man .. Woman, just friends!

2010-09-12T13:06:00.006+02:00

Him and Her, just friends?

We all need friendship. Friendship can give us something that we cannot get from our family. However, when we speak about friendship, do we refer to the man-man, woman-woman or man-woman friendship? Is it the same thing? Why do we seek friendship with the opposite sex? Before answering these questions, the person that you consider "friend" is really just a firend? Watch his / her behaviour, his / her speech and especially the body language which never lies. Here are some clues that show you that the other is not just "friend":

He .. just a friend?

· He does try to impress you.

· He offers personal gifts for your birthday.

· He never talks about his feelings towards someone else.

· He talks about what he did during the day, what he ate for diner, tv programs that he watched...

· He calls you simply to hear your voice.

· If you mention another man, he becomes very quiet and moody and is keen to change the subject.

She.. just a friend ?

· She takes care of her appearance in front of you so that to attract you.

· Pay attention to her reactions to you when you are with her. A girl who wants to be more than just friends will usually try to stay close to you. Read her body language. Girls usually smile a lot around boys they like.

· She offers you an irregular level of eye contact.

· Think about her availability when you need support. If she always answers your phone calls, replies to your text messages and shows up at important events in your life, chances are, she wants to begin a relationship with you.

· Consider the way she acts when you are around other girls. Jealousy is an almost sure sign that the girl you like wants to be more than just friends. She may get an upset look on her face or try to jump into every conversation that you have with other girls if she is jealous of the attention you are showing the other girl.

Friends around you can tell when something is going on and have no doubt on the changes taking place in your relationship with your friend.

However, the question is, why do we seek friendship with the opposite sex?

Men .. Women .. just friends!

2010-08-15T22:54:00.004+02:00

Soon ..

Friendship man - woman?!

Couple life: Are you sure you love your partner?

2010-07-07T22:19:00.006+02:00

Five False Friends that make love disappear ..

Some emotions that are part of the feeling of love cannot be regarded as an expression of true love. On the contrary, each of them negates the other. We take them as a proof of love but they are really what kills it. Do you know them?

Jealousy:

It is believed that the greater the bite of jealousy is, the greater the love seems profound. But if jealousy is inseparable from the feeling of love, it is far from being its major criteria. In true love, feelings are "I love" and "I am loved". In jealousy, there is only the feeling of the loved object of the other, who cannot bear losing him out of sight. He thinks he is no more loved. Excessive jealousy nourishes itself by the ignorance of the other. One speaks only of himself, of past wounds. In this relationship, the other is loved because he gives the 'jealous' a consistency to have what he lacks.

Overprotection:

This is when love is expressed as for the care of the other in a way of self-sacrifice: "I am concerned about you," "I protect you," "I wish your well-being". At first glance, it is a genuine love. But this protective love actually seeks personal rewards: "It's your turn now to take care of me," nobody else will care for you as well as me. " It is indeed an alliance that aims to heal the wounds of childhood abandonment, emotional or physical abuse.

Dependence:

Being dependent on the other is to be ready to do anything lest to be facing the insupportable emptiness in oneself that occurs when the other moves away. It's just like a child who feels alive and safe when he is connected to his mother. Dependence in love talks about love, but unrequited love, hurt love. Dependent love interprets, in adulthood, the desire to repair the deep wounds of childhood, where one was malnourished emotionally. But the repair is doomed to failure because the total and permanent fusion with the other is impossible.

Hyperintensity:

The romantic relationship depends on passionate feelings. That is to say: "this is the big love, the true one", both the feelings and emotions it provokes are strong. The temporality changes: there is time 'before' the meeting, an empty past of real meaning, and this short present, which destroys everything in its path. This love is driven by necessity, not desire, fed by the need and waiting; it is consumed immediately after being consumed. Words are a source of conflict. This love is of those who fear to reveal themselves to the other. Passion can hide the emptiness, difficulty or misunderstandings of the relationship.

Possessivity :

Having the desire to possession is one component of love, but when it is central and permanent, it is not love that is in questions, but rather fears. Possession is being unable to love unless one has his beloved available. We may not feel the control of the other, but unsupportable fear shots up from the depths of the psyche. "He is part of me, I cannot let him go away". The possessive, unlike the addict, does not seek to merge with the other as he considers him to be part of him, like a body organ. Possessiveness is older than jealousy. When the possessive loses control of the other, he feels threatened in his own life, as if his partner left bloodless, drained of his lifeblood.

These emotions of love, so dangerous, should be avoided or consumed in moderation.

According to Psychology

How do People Really See You?

2010-05-09T19:13:00.001+02:00

Test your present personality

The following is an accurate test of personality. It helps corporations get better insight concerning their employees and in their perspective employees. It takes only a few minutes.

This test idicates the answers for who you are "now" and not who you were in the past. Have pen or pencil and paper ready. Take this test and try to find your profile.

You have only 10 Simple questions. Keep a track of your letter answers to each question. Are you ready? Begin the test.

1. When do you feel your best..
A) in the morning
B) during the afternoon and early evening
C) late at night

2.. You usually walk...
A) fairly fast, with long steps
B) fairly fast, with little steps
C) less fast head up, looking the world in the face
D) less fast, head down
E) very slowly

3. When talking to people you....
A) stand with your arms folded
B) have your hands clasped
C) have one or both your hands on your hips
D) touch or push the person to whom you are talking
E) play with your ear, touch your chin, or smooth your hair

4. When relaxing, you sit with...
A) your knees bent with your legs neatly side by side
B) your legs crossed
C) your legs stretched out or straight
D) one leg curled under you

5. When something really amuses you, you react with...
A) big appreciated laugh
B) a laugh, but not a loud one
C) a quiet chuckle
D) a sheepish smile

6. When you go to a party or social gathering you...
A) make a loud entrance so everyone notices you
B) make a quiet entrance, looking around for someone you know
C) make the quietest entrance, trying to stay unnoticed

7. You're working very hard,concentrating hard, and you're interrupted...

A) welcome the break
B) feel extremely irritated
C) vary between these two extremes

8. Which of the following colors do you like most...
A) Red or orange
B) black
C) yellow or light blue
D) green
E) dark blue or purple
F) white
G) brown or gray

9. When you are in bed at night, in those last few moments before going to sleep you are...
A) stretched out on your back
B) stretched out face down on your stomach
C) on your side, slightly curled
D) with your head on one arm
E) with your head under the covers

10. You often dream that you are...
A) falling
B) fighting or struggling
C) searching for something or somebody
D) flying or floating
E) you usually have dreamless sleep
F) your dreams are always pleasant

This is the result. Count your points :

1. (a) 2 (b) 4 (c) 6
2. (a) 6 (b) 4 (c) 7 (d) 2 (e) 1
3. (a) 4 (b) 2 (c) 5 (d) 7 (e) 6
4. (a) 4 (b) 6 (c) 2 (d) 1
5. (a) 6 (b) 4 (c) 3 (d) 5 (e) 2
6. (a) 6 (b) 4 (c) 2
7. (a) 6 (b) 2 (c) 4
8. (a) 6 (b) 7 (c) 5 (d) 4 (e) 3 (f) 2 (g) 1
9. (a) 7 (b) 6 (c) 4 (d) 2 (e ) 1
10. (a) 4 (b) 2 (c) 3 (d) 5 (e) 6 (f) 1

Now add up the total number of points. Here are the 6 profiles:

- Over 60 points : Others see you as someone they should handle with care'. You're seen as vain, self-centered, and who is extremely dominant. Others may admire you, wishing they could be more like you, but don't always trust you, hesitating to become too deeply involved with you.

- 51 to 60 points : Others see you as an exciting, highly volatile, rather impulsive personality, a natural leader, who'squick to make decisions, though not always the right ones. They see you as bold and adventuresome, someone who will try anything once, someone who takes chances and enjoys an adventure. They enjoy being in your company because of the excitement you radiate.

- 41 to 50 points : Others see you as fresh, lively, charming, amusing, practical, and always interesting, someone who's constantly in the center of attention, but sufficiently well balanced not to let it go to their head. They also see you as kind, considerate, and understanding, someone who'll always cheer them up and help them out.

- 31 to 40 points : Others see you as sensible,cautious, careful practical. They see you as clever, gifted,or talented, but modest. Not a person who makes friends too quickly or easily, but someone who's extremely loyal to friends you do make and who expects the same loyalty in return. Those who really get to know you, realize it takes a lot to shake your trust in your friends, but equally that it takes you a long time to get over if that trust is ever broken.

- 21 to 30 points : Your friends see you as painstaking and fussy. They see you as very cautious, extremely careful, a slow and steady plodder. It would really surprise them if you ever did something impulsively or on the spur of the moment, expecting you to examine everything carefully from every angle and then, usually decide against it. They think this reaction is caused partly by your careful nature.

- Under 21 points : People think you are shy, nervous, and indecisive, someone who needs looking after, who always wants someone else to make the decisions and who doesn't want to get involved with anyone or anything! They see you as a worrier who always sees problems that don't exist. Some people think you're boring. Only those who know you well, know that you aren't.

A real test given by the Human Relations Dept.

Dr. Phil

How do people see you really?

2010-05-04T21:46:00.130+02:00

Test your present personality

The following is an accurate test of personality. It helps corporations get better insight concerning their employees and in their perspective employees. It takes only a few minutes.

7. You're working very hard,concentrating hard, and you're interrupted...

A real test given by the Human Relations Dept.

Dr. Phil

A Guide to Women's Language .. for Men !!

2010-02-19T21:34:00.007+01:00

Can you interpret what she is telling you ?

Actually, a woman uses the same words and expressions as men but with a slight difference: they do not always use the 'good' words to say what 'needs' to be said exactly. A woman uses expressions that give generally 'different' meaning from their true signification, or quite the opposite, or else a meaning that is unrelated to the real signification of words. Rarely the words she uses really express their true meaning. In other words, when a woman speaks, what she says is off with what it means. A man when he listens to a woman, he understands what she meant literally, but not what is behind the lines. Are you lost? That's why, I invite you to explore this small guide that shows the path to understanding the language of women.

You want =

You wnat

We need =

I want

It's your decision =

The correct decision should be taken right now.

Do what you want =

You will pay for this later.
We need to talk. =

I need to complain.

Of course yes, it's clear. =

Of course no, it's clear.

I am not angry. =

Of course I am angry.

This kitchen is uncomfortable. =

I want a new house.

Do you love me ? =

I am going to ask for something expensive
How much do you love me ? =

I did something today that you won't like.

I'll be ready in a minute. =

Take off your shoes and watch tv.

Do you find me fat ? =
Tell me that I am beautiful.

You need to learn to communicate. =

Just agree with me.

Are you listening to me ! ? =

Too late, you are dead.

I am sorry. =

You'll be sorry.

Do you like this recipe? =

It's easy, so better for you to get used to it.
I am not crying ! =

Yes, I am crying because I find it important.

In answer to the question «What's wrong ?", if she says :

Nothing.=
Everything.

When she says: «It's your decision" =

«It's better for you to know what I want and give it to me right now".

When she says: «Go ahead, do what you want», she means in reality: =

«I don't want you to do it and you'll pay for it later".

Would you be able, after this exploration of language to interpret what she is trying to tell you and avoid misunderstanding? Or will it be necessary to provide more clues about her language? Good luck ..

Love in your couple ?

2010-01-22T20:57:00.012+01:00

Love and marriage : are they compatible ?

If we were in love before marriage, is it possible to continue to love the same way after ? And if love is established after marriage, would it have the same taste, same value or not?

Many people believe that the beautiful feelings of love extinguish after marriage, or even disappear. And many are who believe that Love when born after the marriage is more likely to last as long as we know how to maintain it. The issue is not to try to love before engagement or after, but rather how to establish a relationship in harmony with a true Love that lasts for life.

If you want to know how to create and maintain love in your marriage, here are some clues that may seem too simple or even absurd, but they are at the heart of a successful relationship. You can then judge for yourself if you live actually in love or not and why.

You communicate your needs and your desires to your partner in all respect.

You are careful to build your relationship and work it day after day.

You understand that the desires and needs of your partner are as important as yours.

You try to approach the truth of your partner by getting rid of your illusions and your projections.

You realize that your relationship has a hidden purpose: to heal the wounds of childhood both in opening towards each other.

You learn to recognize and overcome your dark side so as not to project onto your partner.

You're ready to love unconditionally and with confidence.

You know that to love truely is difficult, but you accept it.

Now that you know, you can measure love in your couple life : is it there? Will it last? Good luck ..

According to le Couple, mode d'emploi, of Hendrix

Activate your Intuition !

2009-12-24T19:04:00.000+01:00

Listen to your heart .. and trust your intuition

Have you had that experience when all of a sudden you just had this huge hunch that something is about to happen, and to your surprise, that intuition was eventually translated to reality? Why is the need to activate intuition ? Why not let your emotional and psychological state as it is? First and foremost, intuition promotes good communication. It makes you more sensitive to the people around you; it often keeps you from hurting those you love because you are intuitive enough to understand them. Intuition also makes you far more creative than ever. Lastly, intuition has a knowledge and a healing power. This healing power is not in the physical sense, but in delving deep into your soul to eradicate some negative energy buried in it. Thus, are you ready to develop your intuition? If yes, here are some ways to activate this gift :

1. Meditation

Meditating means finding peace in yourself. If your mind and heart are cluttered with too many baggage and hurt, you wouldn’t be able to quiet down that part of you that could eventually initiate intuition. There are so many ways to meditate: take a yoga class, or just simply practice some breathing that could bring you straight to Zen.

2. Think positive!

A worry-free, fear-free state could do so much to improve your intuitive ability. By staying positive, you attract good energy that would be able to easily recognize imminent feelings and events.

3. Just let go!

What does this mean? If you are on the brink of making a huge decision, let go of all the inhibitions and head to a quiet place where you could find out where the letting go has brought you. Sometimes you just have to listen to the voice within you, and that voice wouldn’t come out unless you let go.

4. Never expect!
After letting go of the inhibitions and all those things that stop you from thinking and feeling clearly, never expect for an answer right away. Never expect that the “hunch” would fall on your lap immediately. Give it a little time then you’d just get surprised that now you have your answer.

5. Believe in your first impressions!

When you see someone for the first time and think that he is a bit too arrogant for your taste, chances are that impression actually holds true. Most of the time, first impressions are brought by intuition.

6. Stay happy!

All you need to be intuitive is to stay happy! Happiness attracts immense power and such power includes intuition. In tapping your intuition, your motivation must be happiness and contentment. Given that premise, intuition will fall to you easily.

Intuition is helpful, because sometimes it leads you to something that cannot be achieved otherwise. A lot of lives have been saved by intuition alone. Decisions are easier done if armed by this gift. Develop intuition now and reap benefits you have never imagined. It's a knowledge and a power all in you.

Rest your Mind ..

2009-12-08T21:57:00.002+01:00

Your thoughts .. It's what tires you ..

The path to self discovery begins with exercises on one's self. As a first time, you must learn to manage and embed all negative thoughts and critical voices that prevent you from advancing in life. This is how you learn to understand yourself better. These exercises will help you to de-stress, to calm your mind so that you can hear your intuition. You need patience, perseverance and confidence in what you do.

Find a quiet place, unplug the phone, television, and anything that might disturb you. You'll watch your thoughts just to be aware of what's happening in your head.Thoughts include: sounds, sensations in your body, sounds from inside or peoples voices. Just give yourself enough time to feel comfortable watching what is going on in your mind. Being gently alert is more important than how long you spend. The more alert you become, the more you will notice. Here are three practical exercises :

1. Watch your thoughts

Relax and gently close your eyes. For about 1 minute, easily watch thoughts flowing through your mind. Just watch them and observe them, and let them go. Open your eyes. Did you notice how quickly or slowly your thoughts were moving through? What else did you notice? Were there lots of thoughts or a few thoughts?

2. Count your thoughts

Next you will count your thoughts. For example, if you notice the sound of a bird singing, count that as thought #1. If you notice a sensation in your body, count that as #2. If you have a thought like, “oh, I am hungry ?” Count that as #3. And so on, count as many thoughts as you notice. Begin by gently closing your eyes. Relax and notice the thoughts moving through your mind. Then easily, effortlessly begin to count each thought that comes into your awareness. Keep alert during this exercise. Continue this for about 2 minutes, then open your eyes How many thoughts did you count?

3. Stay alert as you watch your thoughts

Once again, gently close your eyes and watch the thoughts moving through your mind. Do not count. Just watch. Stay alert. Continue for about 2 minutes, then open your eyes. Did your thoughts begin to slow down? If yes, then you are starting to better understand the flow of your thoughts.

These exercises will reduce your thoughts and calm your mind. The more you practice the more you become aware of what's happening in your mind, which will allow you better control yourself after. Trust yourself and what you feel. This is the key for what's coming next.

Your Intuition .. where did it arrive ?

2009-11-08T20:51:00.036+01:00

Which voice do you hear more often ?

We often use our brain to solve problems, make decisions, find solutions. We know how the brain communicates and how it works. The brain is constantly in a state of alert and restlessness even during sleep. But do you know how your intuition speaks to you? This force in you which bears an incredible intellect? It is as much present and active as the brain is with one difference, you don't recognise its voice. Here are some points to distinguish between the voice of your brain and that of your intuition.

Here is the voice of your MIND ..

. It's talking all the time - it shouts ;
. It's a mind-chatter, a self limiting giving reasons why you can't ;

. It brings you regrets, negative interpretations of a factual situation
. It's words, scenarios ;

. It's a worrier ;

. It's speaking knowledge, facts, data ;

. It wants to be right based on data & beliefs;

. It's a perfectionist ;

. It's partly accurate, partly wrong ;

. It's affecting your attitude ;

. It's always reasoning, rationalising ;

. It shows payoffs ;
. It asks why ;
. It's capable of lying ;

. It's creating self-fulfilling prophecy ;

. It's complex ;
. It's past and future oriented ;
. It's tormenting ;

. It's frantic.

And here is the voice of your INTUITION ..

. It's not a language; no words are involved ;

. It's not condemning ;

. It's a gut instinct, you just "know" ;

. It's living in the "now" ;

. It's telling you to "just do it" with no reasons attached ;

. It's simple ;

. It's possibly allowing you to pick up on someone else's mood ;

. It's helping you take care of yourself possibly life saving ;

. It's truthful, obvious, honest ;

. It's a complete integrity ;

. It's wisdom, never mistaken ;

. It's promoting freedom ;

. It's a mood that is always good, happy, love, peace and joy ;

. It's responsible ;

. It's accepting you as human and not perfect ;

. It's a problem solver ;

. It answers your questions .

However, the voice of intuition is not strong enough to be heard by our ears at any moment, it's like a little voice inside that speaks softly. In order to hear it and follow it, we need peace and serenity, we need to rest our minds.

To be continued .. Activate your intuition and rest your mind ..

Communicating again with Men ..

2009-10-15T14:56:00.016+02:00

What else should you know about Men ?

Ladies, you do not probably know all about men. That's why I propose an additional 'lesson' to help you communicate with them. In fact, men are very different from women, but they are complementary and that is where lies the secret of good communication. All you need is to understand each other in order to be able to communicate. If you put in mind that men are not as complicated as you think, beware that your communication will be a success.

If you want to get a man to be ‘chatty', all you need to do is to make him talk about a topic he loves such as a hobby, a sport, or his job. He wants a woman to listen to him as much as women wants a man to listen to her.

Avoid the question "What are you thinking ?" A man can do better than he can explain. You believe that the man doesn’t think. Because every time you ask him what he's thinking, he can never give you a clear answer. In fact, a man thinks constantly but he is not aware of it. All he knows is that thoughts and ideas spring forth fully formed into his mind. Often, men will come up with a brilliant idea, but not be willing to explain to you how he came up with it. He is not being stubborn or refusing to communicate. He doesn't understand where it came from any more than you do; he just won't admit it. To find an idea, a man will devote much time and effort to it.

Can you get a man to talk about his feelings? No, you can't. Trying to force him to will just drive him away. Does that mean you will never know how he feels about you? Of course not.

First of all, you can tell how he feels by how he acts and what he does. That he's there with you, sharing things with you, doing things with you, is an expression of his love.

Secondly, he will do many things to express his feelings that you will not recognise as such, like making efforts to make you happy but .. in his way. To a man, the gift of a tool is the ultimate expression of love even if for you it's not that romantic.

Finally, a man will on very rare occasions spontaneously come forth with an expression of love that you will recognise as such, either by saying it or getting frisky or giving flowers or something alike. It is very important to react in the proper manner when he does these things. You must learn to accept all his expressions of love, both gracefully and graciously. To react calmly and unexpressively (the way he usually reacts to anything you give to or do for him) is to tell him that you do not appreciate this expression of love.

Don’t offer him help if he doesn’t ask you for. Offering and starting to help without waiting his agreement makes him feel that he actually needs your help. Do not offer in such a way as to make it sound like you think your man actually needs your help. Even if he does. Especially if he does. And do not under any circumstances ask as if you are amused by his inability to do the project himself. Remember, your man bases his sense of self worth on what he can do for you. To imply that he can't do the job himself or that you are amused by his failures is to imply that he isn't a man.

You can understand now that a man is not as complicated as he appears to be : he does more than he says. All you need to is to make an effort to understand him and so be able to communicate with him more efficiently. You will see how you'll change your mind about men ! Good luck.

Last Lesson

Still Communicating with Women ..

2009-08-29T22:30:00.069+02:00

What else you don't know about communicating with women ?

There may still more that you do not know about women and how they communicate. Do you remember the secret key? A woman does not speak your language, does not think like you, and does not see things in the same way as you: she is different from you! The secret is simple: to communicate well with a woman is just to know her language. Here are some additional tips for communicating effectively with women.

Take the time to reassure her and let her know that you care about what she is saying and feeling. Make her feel that you are listening to her and your communication will improve.

Sometimes men experience uncomfortable emotions because they do not know what to do to solve things. To improve on communication, men must learn to resist the urge to take the problem completely on your shoulders.

To have good communication with a woman, you don't have to always agree with her. If you disagree, however, you'll be better able to get your point across if you wait until she is finished talking.

In addition, do not pretend to understand when you don't, and do not automatically start defending yourself. You communicate better with women if you admit when you don't understand.

If you disagree and feel strongly about the issue, let her know that what she said is important to you. Then gently explain your point of view. If you make a mistake, especially when you have slighted her feelings, apologize.

Don't offer more solutions. Because when women talk about problems does not mean they don't know how to solve them. Women want men to listen to them.

Don't blame her when you start to become upset. Her feelings are valid even if they don't make sense to you right away. Before coming to any conclusion, try to see the situation through her eyes.

Move beyond two-word answers and get chatty, especially on the phone. You'll certainly win her.

Are you still convinced that the woman is an incomprehensible enigma? Are you ready to make an effort to understand her in order to better communicate with her? With these tips, you will learn this mysterious feminine language. Knowing her language and applying it is the key to a successful communication. Good luck ..

Lesson 3

Test your Personality !

2009-07-30T10:08:00.081+02:00

You are likely to be which one ?

I offer you a relaxing moment to discover your personality, and to know the hidden side in you that perhaps you don't know. Here is the test, it's easy, fun and takes only 5 minutes. You need a sheet of paper and a pencil and .. do not cheat! Try this test, it's simple but full of reality ... You are going to draw a cat on the sheet of paper.

It's worth trying ..

Draw your cat now ..

Did you finish ? Your drawing of the 'cat' will help to reveal your own personality.

Don't cheat !

Here is the result :

If your drawing is on the top of the sheet you're positive and optimistic.

If it's more towards the center: you are realistic.

If it is to the bottom of the sheet you're pessimistic and you tend to have negative behavior.

If the cat looks to the left: you believe in tradition, you are friendly and you will easily remember the dates: holidays, birthdays ...

If the cat looks to the right, you are innovative, active, but you do not have a great sense of family and do not matter to important dates.

If it looks at you, you are direct, you like being the devil's advocate and you are not afraid to face discussions.

If you have added lots of details: you are analytical, patient and cautious.

If it does not have many details, you are emotional, sincere to naivety, not very methodical and take many risks.

If you have drawn less than 4 feet, you are insecure or you are currently experiencing a period of great change in your life.

If you have drawn 4 feet, you are sure, you are stubborn and stick to to your ideals.

The size of the ears indicates your ability to listen to others. The more they are long, the better.

The tail indicates the quality of your private life : again, the more it's long, the better.

You forgot to draw the tail ? Not possible to repeat the test ... So it's revealing ?

I hope that you liked this little test. There will be some others.

Communicate with a Man ..

2009-07-15T14:44:00.039+02:00

Do you know how to communicate with a man ?

Women believe that men don't know how to communicate with them. You need to know that men have a 'different' way to send information or to process it. Men, when they communicate, do not share the details and emotions associated with their experiences as women do. But they tend to focus on the facts. However, because of their ego and their desire to win at everything they do, they assume they are good communicators, but the same problem plagues almost all relationships at one time or another. For successful communication with a man, here are some tips to help you better understand him and therefore to know why he had so often difficulties to understand you.

Don't try to establish a relationship with a man through communication. Understand that men communicate to share information, not to establish relationships. This means a conversation with a man might not always be as satisfying as a conversation with a girlfriend.

You have to know that a man uses less words when talking than a woman. Don’t be frustrated when he’s not as interested in chatting as you are. Men tend to speak half as many words as women do on a daily basis. A man, when he has nothing to say stops talking.

Keep the conversation short. Once a point has been made, stop talking. Women have the tendency to talk too much and for too long. Keep the discussion short and then wait for him to think and respond. And when he talks, listen carefully to the answers and responses. It may be hard to listen to comments that hurt, which can occur during an argument, but it’s the only way to work out where both of you go from there. Men and women often don’t see the same thing in the same way. Stick to the topic of conversation; give him options to help solve matters and keep the talk brief.

Be more direct in your communication. Men lose interest when you take a circuitous route to the point of your story. The best way to keep a man's attention is to be more direct in your communication. Men lose interest when you take a wordy route to the point of your story. Most men will be better listeners if you get to the point quicker. It is not necessarily that they are not interested in the extra details about how you did something or why or how it made you feel; they just process information much differently than a woman and often get lost and do not ‘get' the point you are making. Not that a man is not intelligent or unable to communicate, but that his brain processes things much differently than a female brain. Try to talk less.

Tell him that you don't want solutions ! Do you know that men are problem solvers and that their brain focuses on problem solution ? In your conversation, he tends to see the problems that a woman may share with them as needing to be fixed or solved, and this may tire them, when all she wants is to talk about them. Don't be shocked if he leaves you in the middle of a conversation, that's because he didn't find solutions.

Men don't see relationships as something one talks about, but rather as something one does. By simply doing things with you or even being with you, a man is building on your relationship. He'd be quite happy spending the entire day working with you without the two of you saying as much as three words to each other. He'll come away with a renewed sense of intimacy and confidence in the relationship, happy that you two have shown once again that you can work as a seamless team. While you'll be upset that he never once told you that he loved you and you will conclude that he is not interested in you. You are wrong !

Let him know what you want. If there is a pressing matter that needs to be discussed, tell him so. Don’t assume he shares the same need. He needs a clear sign that you have something to talk about. That gives him the idea that the talk is important and he is more likely to give full attention to it. So don't wait that he takes the initiative to talk.

Knowing that men are communicators' different 'from you, you need to simply accept that difference, to try to understand it in order to manage the communication. To establish a successful communication with a man, you need to speak in his own language and not yours. Remember, a man does not read in your mind, does not predict what you want, so do not assume that he knows everything, that he pretends not to understand, while in fact he knows nothing ! Ladies, a man is much simpler than you think. And that's not all ..

Lesson 2

Communicate with a Woman ..

2009-06-28T11:06:00.084+02:00

Would you like to be irresistible in the eyes of a woman ?

Most men feel helpless in front of the incomprehensible mystery : the woman. They are convinced that women are too complicated, a very different creature, that's why they don't do any effort to understand them. Unfortunately, this is a too simplistic way to drop the confrontation. Talking without understanding is the dialogue of the deaf. Yet the secret is simple : to communicate with a woman it's just to know her language. Like all other languages, communicating with a woman can be learned. It is a talent that needs to be developed, just like to know to drive, or to play a musical instrument or typing ! Here are some tips to help you learn this mysterious female language. Once you know this language and you begin to use it, you are an irresistible man.

Make time to talk with her ! Just as you make time to watch television, to eat, to surf on the net, to go out, you need to make the time to sit with her and talk. This is called making an effort and even if you only discuss the very basics : work, friends, for her it will be well noted.

Be an active listener ! Pay attention to what she says and acknowledge what she says but without judgement. This requires patience and concentration, which is again something men are not known for. Make the effort to try, you won't regret it.

Let her know you care ! If she had a bad day at work, she needs to know you are on her side. Telling her that she should just quit her job if she doesn't like or to minimise the value of her suffering or feelings, is not at all the answer. Think about how you would feel in a similar situation and even relate a similar experience if you've had one. She has to know you care about her.

Watch emotions and details ! When talking with her, put your ego aside and use emotions and details when describing an experience. She will certainly relate to what you say having felt the same thing herself and by offering the seemingly pointless details, she will know you care about her.

Have the will and the passion to better understand her ! Feeling obliged to learn her language won't help you. To communicate with women is like learning a foreign language. But everything was foreign once. The key to learning anything is to have a passion for the subject and then practise as much as possible. Understanding her better will bring you more of what you want and you would do it for her. Women often complain that men don't know how to communicate.

Be by her side ! Women don’t need to have a particular reason to talk ; they like to talk because it creates connection with the others. So they always want to have near them someone who wants to listen and talk with them. Also, women use talking as a way to release tension. A woman, when she talks, she feels better. So Sirs, listen, listen and .. listen.

Be surprising ! Women love small gestures. To a man these gestures do not have necessarily an important value. You may consider them ridiculous or unnecessary, but for a woman, those little touches count so much, even more than a trip to Venice ! Soft words, surprises, small gifts, remembering important dates, gestures of affection, calls from time to time, etc. do not cost much but captivate a woman.

Remember the secret key : a woman does not speak your language, does not think like you do, does not see things the same way as you do : she is different from you ! What you need to do is to apply the first lesson. This is the key to a successful communication. And that's not all ..

Lesson 1

2009-06-19T21:04:00.086+02:00

Men - Women .. It's not over ..

How to tell if a Man is in Love ?

2009-06-06T15:32:00.053+02:00

Is He in Love With You ?

A man does not express his feelings easily. He is more unpredictable than a woman. It is difficult to understand what lies in the heart of a man in love, more difficult if he is shy. The signs that a man expresses are widely different from those emitted by a woman in love. The character of the man plays an important role in the issuance of these signs. A shy man fears the strong rejection of the woman, that she will take lightly to his feelings of love. This prevents him from expressing his feelings. Ladies, if you have any doubts about someone in your life and you do not ask, here are some signs that do not deceive that a man is in love.

He is anxious when with you and shows signs of nervosity.

He will do anything to get your attention. He can even change his behavior and character to show you that he is the best. He talks about his competencies and his adventures.

Some play cards the faithful friend. He is so smooth and it is generally regarded as your brother. Fraternity men and women, when one of the players think of love rather than friendship.

He will talk about common interests you share both of you, and hobbies.

He shows you a mysterious personality and do not reveal all these secrets from the very first meeting.

He tries to show you he is better than the others to impress you by his unique style and his qualities, as a woman wants her man to be different.

He becomes jealous if you are interested in someone else.

He shows you that he can make the right decisions.

He manages to be present at every moment. Not the way to take a step without him being there.

If a man liberates himself from his busy schedule just for you, is that he is serious and he manages to find time to spend with you. If he is in love he will see you anyway.

When a man is in love, he becomes a bit shy. Some do not have enough courage to show their true feelings and few others fear that girls drop. But from the way he communicates with you, you can guess whether he is interested or not. He will use a soft and polite tone.

Sometimes, a man in love, instead of approaching the woman he loves, he fleds, he avoids her, because he feels unable to cope or to confess his feelings. He is afraid that she rejects him, or because he cannot offer anything.

If he is in love with you, he shows interest in everything that concerns you. He asks for details about your daily activities and becomes a good listener. He is interested in what happens in your life and more details. He shows interest in everything he thinks he should know.

He has known you, he will show that he is interested and concerned about you. When a man loves you, he becomes more reflective and observant.

He seeks to know you better. He ensures that you are well. If he is very interested in you, means that you are important to him. So, the attention he gives you is another sign of love.

These were some examples of signs specific to men. There may be many others because everything depends on the nature of the man: shy, nervous, dragging, etc.. If the man you love does not share your feelings yet, you are shy to talk with him, watch! A man not in love, once he feels the feelings of a woman, he will flee. However, being trapped in the silence is not the best way to attract his attention. Give him the green light to tackle, because men do not understand easily the feelings of women if they do not say . If so, you must be responsible for encouraging him to speak and not be too shy with him. Good luck ..

How to tell if a woman is in love ?

2009-05-29T20:23:00.016+02:00

Is she in love with you?

It is always hard to tell if a woman loves you. Having different ways of thinking and of expression, men's interpretations of the signs that women show often result in mixed up signals. So what is the right way to interpret their actions and to know if a woman loves you? How will you really know if she loves you or just 'likes you'? Here are some signs that you should observe carefully when trying to determine if a woman loves you ..

She laughs with you, it’s an excellent start.

She blushes when she talks with you.

A woman will only feel absolutely comfortable in your company if she knows that you are very decent and safe to be with you.

She complements you, she admires you.

She Stands by you all the time if you make any decision and she supports you no matter what. She will become your pillar of support.

She Is Genuinely Curious. If she wants to know more about you all the time, then she is interested in you. She will also want to know about your family members and perhaps also want to meet them in person. This means that she is really intrested in you.

She listens to you carefully and remembers everything you tell her.

She Treats You Differently. If she gives you a 'special treatment' then you can be sure that she is in love with you. You will notice that she gives you her undivided attention, and other people will notice this also.

She is jealous. Although jealousy may not necessarily be a good thing when you think about it, a hint of it is a sign that a person is into you. There is jealousy if a woman loves you. A dose of jealousy is actually healthy to a relationship as it validates feelings and reassures the partner that the other is afraid of losing you to someone else.

She finds you a very ambitious man. She is interested by what you tell her.

She puts you sometimes in the doubt, oh yes this is a feminine tactic.

She can torture you psychologically.

She is worried. Some women may not say much but they worry for the safety of the people she loves. This is one way to know if a wman loves you. When what you do affects her in some way, this means that you matter in her life. This is one of the most obvious signs of love in a person : you can tell if a woman loves you if she worries for your safety.

She sacrifices for you. If a woman loves you she has the willingness to sacrifice. There are things that people will not do for anyone but the people that they love. Look for things that differentiate how she treats you and how she treats other people in her life. Are you one of her priorities? Do you come first before her friends? Does she do things for you that she would not do for other people? These are keys on how special you really are to her? Has she sacrificed some things just to be with you?

These were some examples of signs specific to women. There can be more as all depend on the person. These 'symptoms' are univeresal among women. If in case the woman you love is not yet in love with you, or you are shy to talk to her, don’t lose hope as your trust will attract her attention. However, remaining prisoner of silence is not the best way to attract the attention of a woman as women need to be reassured with clear signs from your side. Good luck

To be continud ..

Are you in love ?

2009-05-15T22:21:00.033+02:00

Here is a moment that I offer you with your heart which will enable you to observe yourself. Did you ever ask yourself if the feelings you have towards someone are feelings of love? Because you have some doubts about your feelings towards that person? Do you have some difficulties in identifiying the nature of your feelings towards that person ? Would you like to test your feelings towards a person who already has a place in your life or whom you would like to know better? Here is the moment to check up with 'symptoms' that you might have felt, or some of them, and which can be a sign of ‘Love’. Do you have some of these 'symptoms' ? Then you might be in love. Read it till the end and decide afterwards. I wish you a pleasant reading.

TWENTY
This person is all you think about. Your love fills your mind as uncontrollable mental images.

NINTEEN

As soon as you meet that person or hear his (her) voice your heart beats faster.

EIGTEEN
You feel shy whenever this person is around.

SEVENTEEN
When this person looks at you, you try to avoid him/her (lest your voice trembles and reveals your feelings).

SIXTEEN

You blush when talking with that person, your voice trembles, you can say non-sense, you are afraid to become ridiculous in front of him/her.

FIFTEEN
You will realize that you are always smiling when you look at him/her or hear his/her voice.

FORTEEN
When you look at him/her, you can't see the other people around you, you just see him/her.

THIRTEEN
When you're on the phone with this person and he/she hangs up, you still miss him/her even when it was just two minutes ago.

TWELVE
You walk really slowly when you're with that person.

TEN
You feel good about yourself, who you are inside, and the things you do.

NINE
You would do anything for this person, just to see him/her.
EIGHT
You would like to escape everything only to be with that person and spend a nice time together.
SEVEN
You find no default at that person or you are convinced that your love will deal with this matter.

SIX
All what you do, you imagine doing it both of you.

FIVE
You dream to see your desire comes true while you doubt it clearly.

FOUR
You change easily from a happy state while in contact with this person to a depressive state while you are by yourself.

THREE
While reading this, there was one person on your mind this whole time.

TWO
You were so busy thinking about that person, you didn't notice number eleven was missing.

ONE
Did you scroll up to check this ?

If this was the case, then you are. However, if you never had any of these feelings, then you are still in the shelter.

Number eleven which was deliberately omitted in order to test you, can be revealed now by yourself. Could it be the symptom that you feel indeed, and that you believe the one which corresponds to your state rather than the other previous symptoms ? Scratch quickly and enjoy this moment of truth with yourself. Good luck.

Back

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.. each time, not only support and encouragement, but also richness. So please don’t hesitate to leave your trace even with one word, hoping that subjects will continue to occupy their little place in your hearts. Your suggestions and comments will always be welcome. See you soon with a new subject and thank you for the visit.

Lily

Learn to Know a Man !

2009-03-15T18:27:00.011+01:00

What are the realities hidden in a man ?

Madams, do you really know men ? Do you believe that men are difficult to understand or complicated as they do think about women ? Are you convinced that men are selfish creatures who never think but about their own joy, comfort and needs ? That they are satisfied by the idea that women are complicated in order to avoid making any effort to understand them ? In fact, a man is much more simple than you think. All you need to know is that men come from another planet which means that they see things in a different eye from that of women's. Here is what's hidden in a man's mind and heart.

What a man waits for is : a woman who accepts him as he is ; a woman who relies on him; a woman who admires him for what he undertook and accomplished ; a woman who offers h the opportunity to satisfy her needs.

A man is attracted by these qualities : confidence, open-mindness, approval and gratefulness.

The best way to help a man to blossom is never to try to transform him.

A man will be seduced by a woman who knows how to display clearly her satisfaction.

So that a man can feel attracted to a woman, he needs to feel that he can bring her something.

When a man feels really comfortable in the company of a woman, he will start loving her more.

Instinctively, a man prefers not to show his passion for a woman lest that he will compromise his opportunities by seeming too asking.

A man enters in a deep relation with a woman when he feels that he has something to offer and to share with this woman.

A man needs to feel that love he is receiving from his partner is the result of his personal fforts not just from his natural qualities.

Men need to feel that women need them.

The three principal characteristics of femininity for men are : she is self-confident, soft and receptive.

To be open to a man's love, a woman has to accept his support.

A woman becomes irresistible in a man's eyes when she has a full trust in his abilities.

So Madams, do you still think that men are difficult to cope with or to bear? Are they really selfish as the majority of women think or they are just different?

According to John Gray

To be continued..

Learn to Know a Woman !

2009-03-08T20:04:00.001+01:00

What are the Facts Hidden in a Woman ?

Sirs, do you really know women ? We often say that a woman is a brain-teaser, too complicated to be understood, is it true ? Though it's easy to understand a woman as long as we bear in mind that a woman comes from another planet different from that of men. Here is what's hidden in the head and heart of a woman.

What a woman expects is : a man who worries about her well-being who understands the difficulties she is crossing and who admits the validity of her emotions. A man whom she can love freely while being sure that he will love her back as well. A man who notices her, who loves her and cares about her.

What a woman wants is : a man whom she can trust, who won't betray her trust by revealing her secrets ; a man who understands her tastes, and who knows how to lead in order to facilitate things for her ; a man who anticipates her desires, who offers her his support without asking him to do so. A woman is seduced by a man when she feels 'woman' in his company.

Instead of listening to him talking about himself, a woman wants the man ask her questions in order to know her better.

A woman needs to know that she is unique in the eyes of her man.

A woman gives what she would like to receive.

What seduces a woman in a man, other than his self-confidence, is his curiosity towards her and his gift of listening.

A woman needs to be loved for what she is not for what she does.

A woman appreciates enormously to receive a soft word which reminds her that we always think about her.

A woman needs to feel loved.

A woman adores being looked at, listened to and desired but what will really reassure her is nothing better than getting what she needs.

The three principle characteristics of masculanity for a woman are : a self-confident, determined and responsable man.

Very often, a man becomes aware of his love for a woman when he is facing the possibility of losing her.

A man should understand that the best way to help a woman consists sometimes on being simply available.

A man becomes irresistible in the eyes of a woman when he makes her the center of his ambitions.

So sirs, do you still think that women are complicated to understand or to be approached ? Or they are simply different ?

According to John Gray

To be continued ..

Your Name Tells Who You Are ...

2009-02-28T15:05:00.006+01:00

What does your name mean ?

I offer you a moment of relaxation to discover the relation between your name and your own personality. What you need to do is to find out what each letter of your name means, then connect all the meanings whic will describe YOU. If you have double or triple letters, just count the meaning once. Example: Maya, the 'a' counts once. It's easy !

You can be very quiet when you have something on your mind.
You are always cautious when it comes to meeting new people.
You definitely have a dark side in you, don't be shy to show it.
You have trouble trusting people.
You are a very exciting person.
Everyone loves you.
You have excellent ways of viewing people.
You are ! not judgmental.
You are always smiling and making others smile.=2 0
Jealousy
You like! to try new things.
Love is something you deeply believe in.
Success comes easily to you.
You like to work, but you always want a break.
You are very open-minded.
You are very friendly and understanding.
You are a hypocrite.
You are a social butterfly.
You are very broad-minded.
You have an attitude, a big one.
You feel like you have to equal up to people's standards.
You have a very good physique and looks.
You cause a lot of trouble.
You never let people tell you what to do.
You like your privacy.
You're always fighting with someone

So what do you think ?

Why do Men Dispute with Women ?

2009-02-15T19:04:00.003+01:00

What are the Real Reasons for their Dispute?

Men dispute regularly with women. As for women, they don't understand instinctively the needs of a man in order to face these disagreements. Each conflict of ideas, feelings or desires, for a man, is like a real challenge. The more he is intimate with a woman, the more fights and disagreements with her become tough for him. When she doesn't like what he does for her, he considers it as a personal offence, as he concludes that she doesn't love him. In other words, a man cannot face tensions efficiently within the couple unless his essential emotional needs are satisfied. But, as soon as he thinks that he lacks of love, the dark side of his character dominates to make him stand on the defensive side. A man who provokes conflicts concerning money, time, children education, etc. is probably raised by one of the following reasons:

A man hates when a woman worries for the smallest thing he does or he does not, he feels criticized and rejected. He wants her to accept him as he is as he thinks that she tries to change him.

He hates when she tells him how to do things. He feels that she doesn't admire him and that she treats him as a baby. He needs to feel admired.

He hates when she blames him about her personal problems. This won't encourage him to become her charming prince. He needs encouragement.

He hates when she complains that she does so much to him but that he doesn't thank her enough. This gives him the impression that she doesn't appreciate what he does for her. He needs to feel appreciated, but in this case, he feels blamed, null and disrespected.

He doesn't like when she worries about anything that might happen. He feels that she doesn't trust him enough. He needs her to express her trust to him and her feeling of security with him as her worries make him feel sad.

He doesn't like when she insists that he talk or act according to her will. He doesn't feel accepted or respected. He needs her to accept him as he is, but in this case, he feels dominated and obliged to talk when he has nothing to say. He feels that he will never satisfy her.

He doesn't like when she feels hurt from whatever he says. He feels that she doesn't trust him enough, that she doesn't understand him and that she disregards him. He needs her to accept him and to trust him, while he feels that she never forgives him and that she ignores him.

He hates when she thinks that he can read her thoughts, but in the reality, he cannot. This makes him feel helpless and has the impression that he is not the suitable partner for her. He needs her approval and to feel accepted as he is, while she makes him feel that he failed.

When his basic emotional needs are satisfied, a man tends to use less hurting arguments. He becomes then capable to listen and to talk in a respectful, understanding and kind way. Personal fights, contradictory arguments and negative feelings will be solved by conversation, negotiation and compromises, without having to reach cruel fights.

According to John Gray

To be continued ..

Why do Women Dispute With Men?

2009-02-06T13:05:00.013+01:00

What are the Real Reasons for Their Dispute ?

Men and women dispute frequently for various reasons like : matters of finance, lack of time, children education, etc. But the real reason for these discussions between them is : they don’t feel sufficiently beloved by the partner. This impression of lack of love generates disputes between couples. A woman seems discussing ordinary subjects with her partner, but deep inside her, she opposes him for one of the following reasons :

A woman hates when her man minimizes her feelings or her needs, she feels neglected. Instead of feeling appreciated, she feels rejected.

She hates when he forgets to do what she asked him to. She needs to feel his respect and that he takes care of her when she thinks that he neglects her.

She has the impression that she should be perfect in order to please him when he blames her to be bad. She needs his comprehension and that he reassures her of his love and that he loves her the way she is.

She thinks that her opinion has no value to him and that he never listens to her. She needs to feel understood and respected.

She hates if he doesn’t answer her questions or comments as if she doesn't exist. She needs his attention.

She doesn’t like when he explains to her why she shouldn’t be worried, angry, etc. She feels that her feelings are depreciated. She feels abandoned and hated. She needs that he acknowledge the legitimacy of her feelings and that he understand her.

She doesn’t like when he makes her feel that having emotions is a kind of weakness. She feels a lack of security and protection with him. She needs to feel respected and loved when she confides her feelings to him.

This is how men start disputes without realsing it. They start by underestimating the feelings or the point of view of their partners. For example : a man would say "don't worry for that", or "it's not that serious", as for men, this kind of sentences is friendly and doesn't mean any offense. But for a woman, it's very offensive. The lack of clear communication between them will lead to these results.

According to John Gray

To be continued ..

How do Men and Women Communicate?

2009-01-08T21:58:00.015+01:00

Between Man and Woman

Is there a common language ?
There is a metaphor which says that Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. Is it true? This means that they speak different languages and the communication between the two is not likely to be clear. Very often, when a woman speaks, the man interprets differently the meaning of what she really wants to say. This creates quarrels and misunderstandings. To understand better these differences in communication, here are some examples for some common daily situations between couples.

She says: "We never go out."

He hears: "You don't do your duty towards me, I am very

disappointed, I am so borred with you."
So he answers: "This is not true, we went out last week."
But she meant: "I wish to go out, I would like that we make something together."

She says : "No one cares about me."
He hears: "I am unhappy, you never pay me any attention that I need, shame on you."
So he answers: "I am sure that there are some who care about you."
But she meant: "Today, I feel ignored and abandoned. I am disappointed that you were so busy last days. I know you are busy but sometimes I wonder if you still need me."

She says: "I am so tired that I can't do anything anymore."
He hears: "It's I who do everything here and you never do anything. You should help me, I can't do everything alone. I was wrong to choose you."
So he answers: "This is ridiculous, you are not disabled, are you?"
But she meant: "I need to have some rest before I can do another thing. Will you say to me that my work is good and that I deserve to have some rest?"

She says: "You don't love me anymore."
He hears: "You are selfish and careless, I give you everything and you don't give me back anything. I was fool to love you.".
So he answers: "Of course I love you, the proof is that I am here."
But she meant: "I know, inside me that you love me, but I am suffering from a feeling of insecurity. I would like that you reassure me about your love and that you talk to me about that love."

She says: "I wish that you were more romantic."
He hears: "I want more love, I am no more attracted by you because you are not the lover I dream of. I wish that you were like the other romantic men."
So he answers: "You don't find me romantic?"
But she meant: "I would like to have more time for both of us together alone. You know how to be romantic, but I would like that you surprise me with some flowers."

She says : "I am sick of everything."
He hears: "I have to do many things that I don't like to do. You disappoint me. I wish I had a better partner able to make my life more satisfactory. You do your duty so bad."
So he answers: "If you don't like your work anymore, then change it!"
But she meant: "I love my work and my life, but today, I would like to breathe a bit. Will you ask me what's wrong and listen to me? This will help me to relax."

She says : " Nothing works."
He hears: " You never do anything good. I can't trust you. Another man would know how to do things, but you only complicate things even more."
So he answers: "It's my fault I suppose ?"

But she meant: "I am tired today, and fortunately I can share my feelings with you, this helps me so much."

She says: "Nobody listens to me."
He hears: "I listen to what you say, but you never listen to me. You became annoying. You are but a selfish."
So he answers: " Look, I do listen to you !"
But she meant: "I am afraid to annoy you, but I would like to have some of your special attention. I would like that you ask me questions like "What happened ?, "How did you feel ?", etc. I need your support."

According to John Gray

This is an example of one side of differences between men and women, as if they were really from different planets.

To be continued ..

My Niece

2008-12-26T18:37:00.003+01:00

Drawing is not just to put lines on paper. In order to be able to draw someone, I need to feel the person I draw, to understand him (her), and to feel the desire to draw that personne. Otherwise, my work will be a failure.

Be Positive and Attract More People

2008-12-16T20:20:00.035+01:00

Are you positive or negative ?

Positive and negative thoughts are contagious

All of us affect, in one way or another, the people we meet. This happens instinctively and on a subconscious level, through thoughts and feelings transference, and through body language. People sense our aura and are affected by our thoughts, and vice versa. Is it any wonder that we want to be around positive people and avoid negative ones? People are more disposed to help us if we are positive, and they dislike and avoid anyone broadcasting negativity. Negative thoughts, words and attitude bring up negative and unhappy moods and actions. When the mind is negative, poisons are released into the blood, which cause more unhappiness and negativity. This is the way to failure, frustration and disappointment. Practical Instructions In order to turn the mind toward the positive, inner work and training are required.

The Power of Positive Thinking is a mental attitude that admits into the mind thoughts, words and images that are conductive to growth, expansion and success. It is a mental attitude that expects good and favorable results. A positive mind anticipates happiness, joy, health and a successful outcome of every situation and action. Whatever the mind expects, it finds. Positive thinking is contagious. People around you pick your mental moods and are affected accordingly. Think about happiness, good health and success, and you will cause people to like you and desire to help you, because they enjoy the vibrations that a positive mind emits. In order to make positive thinking yield results, you need to develop a positive attitude toward life, expect a successful outcome of whatever you do, but also take any necessary actions to ensure your success.

Effective positive thinking that brings results is much more than just repeating a few positive words, or telling yourself that everything is going to be all right. It has to be your predominant mental attitude. It is not enough to think positively for a few moments, and then letting fears and lack of belief enter your mind. Some effort and inner work are necessary. Are you willing to make a real inner change? Are you willing to change the way you think? Are you willing to develop a mental power that can positively affect you, your environment and the people around you?
Here are a few actions and tips to help you develop the power of positive thinking:

Always use only positive words while thinking and while talking. Use words such as, 'I can', 'I am able', 'it is possible', 'it can be done', etc. Allow into your awareness only feelings of happiness, strength and success.

Refuse to think negative thoughts, and substitute them with constructive happy thoughts. Read at least one page of inspiring book every day. Watch movies that make you feel happy. Minimize the time you listen to the news and read the papers. Associate yourself with people who think positively.

Before starting with any plan or action, visualize clearly in your mind its successful outcome. If you visualize with concentration and faith, you will be amazed at the results.

In your conversation, use words that evoke feelings and mental images of strength, happiness and success.

Think positive and expect only favorable results and situations, even if your current circumstances are not as you wish them to be. In time, your mental attitude will affect your life and circumstances and change them accordingly.

Now, test yourself : is this glass half full or half empty?